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Our Code-of-Conduct
The Project Kink code-of-conduct that we refer to at all our meetups and events.
CODE OF CONDUCT
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As our meetups become more popular, it became obvious that we needed a code of conduct in place, which we can refer people to before they attend an event.
On that note, below you will find the Project Kink (PK) Code of Conduct:
Code of Conduct for PK events
Project Kink is a community where people with interest or experience in BDSM/kink can meet to share, learn and connect with like-minded individuals.
By being a member of this community, you agree to follow the Code of Conduct.
Project Kink is an over-18 only group.
We aim for a friendly, welcoming and positive experience for everyone.
We expect all our attendees to interact safely and respectfully at all our events.
Our Munches (a.k.a. International Kinkster Meetup - Barcelona)
Our meetup events are held in public, non-kink locations, such as bars and clubs. Public safety rules apply and as such, attendees are ultimately responsible for their own health and safety, and civil liability.
We encourage attendees to please report unsafe, disrespectful, untoward or inappropriate behaviour immediately to our event organisers so issues can be addressed quickly and efficiently.
Like any other meetup or community, we do not tolerate bad behaviour on any individual or group who choose to attend.
Our Ethos
We make it our best effort to create a space, group and community where everyone can feel both free and safe so that our group will be as enriching, enjoyable and inspiring as possible.
We offer a space where people with any degree of interest or experience in BDSM/Kink can safely share, learn and connect with like-minded individuals.
We consider the principles of respect, inclusiveness regardless of gender or sexual orientation, and non-patriarchy as essential for healthy interactions, both online and offline.
Terminology
This code of conduct uses Kink/BDSM interchangeably for easier readibility. By “Kink / BDSM” we refer to the use or practice of non-conventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies, such as (but not limited to) bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism, and masochism, etc… and any adjacent practices
Sharing and Learning
Sharing and Learning are core values in the PK community. These include (among other things) sharing knowledge with others, learning on our own, seeking knowledge from others, hosting events, sharing resources, participating in workshops and social events and visiting some of the venues and spaces in the city.
Language
Remember that English is generally the only language common to all the participants. Participants have varying levels of English fluency, which creates a communication advantage for those who are more fluent.
If you speak multiple languages, consider helping with on-the-spot translation as needed. Speak clearly, not too fast, and avoid jargon or culturally specific references to ensure that others can understand you.
Connecting
Connecting with others is a core value in the PK community. This includes (among other things) showing open-mindedness to others, creating safe spaces for authenticity and vulnerability and respecting the rest of the community.
Connecting with others
We are not a sex or swinger community. We have no problem with such communities - we just want to run something different. So please keep any behaviour within the bounds of what is acceptable in public. This applies to all organized meetups as well as to communication between group members while in the context of the group.
Naturally, the group has no opinion about what happens in private chats or meetings, as long as it happens among consenting adults, and is subject to the agreement of all the people involved.
Respect for personal space
You need a clear mind at all times to respect this Code of Conduct, so be responsible in the consumption of alcohol and avoid any substances that may impair your judgement.
Participants’ personal space, consent and agency must be respected at all times. Boundaries are different for everyone, so please be careful and respectful when approaching another participant, especially when:
- Hugging, caressing or touching in any way
- Proposing sensual or sexual activities
- Starting conversations on sensitive topics
- Displaying live or recorded acts of an explicit nature
- Joining in or watching others being intimate
- Asking about private details
This list is not exhaustive, and necessarily leaves many concepts open to interpretation, such as “sensitive”, “intimate”, or “private”. We cannot stress enough the importance of communication and active listening.
Consent
Everyone has their own way of saying “no” and many people have trouble giving an explicit, firm negative answer: as a general rule, everything that is not an enthusiastic “yes” actually means “no”.
If another participant declines an invitation, repeated requests are considered a violation of their consent and stated boundaries.
Finally, remember that a person’s past consent to a certain activity is not an implicit acceptance of their future participation in the same activity.
Diversity Statement
We encourage everyone to participate and are committed to building a community for all.
We seek to treat everyone both as fairly and equally as possible. Whenever a participant has made a mistake, we expect them to take responsibility for it. If someone has been harmed or offended, it is our responsibility to listen carefully and respectfully, and do our best to right the wrong.
Although this list cannot be exhaustive, we explicitly honor diversity in age, gender, gender identity or expression, culture, ethnicity, language, national origin, political beliefs, profession, race, religion, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, and technical ability. We will not tolerate discrimination based on any of the protected characteristics above, including participants with disabilities.
Respect for Privacy
Kink/BDSM is still a delicate issue in many social environments and disclosing a kink lifestyle could result in severe consequences. All participants have a right to privacy, including: *
- Not being photographed or recorded without prior consent
- Keeping any or all personal information private
- Trusting the content of conversations and workshops will not be disclosed to other participants or outside the event.
* Naturally, participants' consent can override these rules, but please ask for it explicitly case by case, every time, and do not take it for granted.
Personal Responsibility and Awareness
We are collectively responsible for creating a safe and welcoming environment; pay attention to yourself and to the other participants to make sure everybody is doing well.
Ask for support if you need it, and offer support to others if you think they need it.
All participants are adults and are ultimately responsible for their own health and safety (getting ill or having an accident) and civil liability (breaking something or hurting someone).
What happens if the Code of Conduct is not respected
If you feel that someone is breaking the Code of Conduct in any way please point it out to them (if you feel comfortable doing so) and/or talk to one of the event organisers or PK Admins.
We (individual event organisers and PK Admins) reserve the right to ask a participant to leave an event or the community immediately if we believe that a serious code of conduct violation has occurred, or if we consider that they are a threat to the well-being of other participants.
If this ocurrs during an event that had an associated cost (entry fee), we cannot guarantee that the venue will offer to refund your entry.
We reserve the right to refuse further registrations to any Project Kink event/communities/spaces of anyone who has not respected the Code of Conduct in the past.
Where can I find the PK Admins?
By Email or Telegram - details here: Community page
Project Kink on Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/14434511
On Instagram: @projectkinkbcn